Fuck insecurity. Seventy-four percent of girls report struggling with self-esteem-related issues (Statistics on Girls and Women Self-Esteem, 2022.) Many girls fight a silent battle of internal shame; having no idea where to start on their journey of self-acceptance. There is no right or wrong way to be, there is perfection in being imperfect. Healing begins when we stop thinking and start doing. Here are three tips to train your brain to delete insecurity for good.
Here are three tips to train your brain to delete insecurity for good
Try taking photos of yourself
Take one random photo of yourself every day for the next month; even if you look messy. As these random pictures of yourself pile up in your phone, you’ll notice how there are different versions of yourself. Each one is worthy of love, not just the versions of you that had a good day. You might even remember a few details from that day. Through this exercise, you will notice how beautiful life is and how beautiful you make it. Or you’ll come to realize that there are certain changes you need to make that you have been avoiding. Either way, hold space for yourself and accept everything you are so you can become who you want to be.
Push Yourself Out of That Damn Comfort Zone
This exercise can be done in a plethora of ways. Blast a playlist and jam the fuck out, feel the music come over your body, and be free to move however your body wants. Hug yourself, sometimes the person we need the most love from is ourselves. Stare at yourself naked and be in awe of everything you see. Hold whatever parts of your body that make you feel insecure. You don’t have to like everything you see; looking at your body can be daunting. It doesn’t matter if your breasts are lopsided, look at yourself for all that you are. When you go out, dress out of place. It doesn’t matter if you are going to the movies, wear those heels. You’ll have to find what works for you, but all of these exercises will make you uncomfortable. Confidence is like a muscle, it takes time to grow. You’ll feel more comfortable in your own skin and how you choose to show your personality off to the world.
Give Silent Blessings
When you see someone with something you want send them the best of wishes! For example, if you see an attractive woman passing by and wish you looked at her, mentally thank her for blessing your eyes with her beauty. What you truly admire is her confidence, and in you sending her a blessing, that was a confident thing of you to do! Say in your head that you hope a stranger has a good day or that they get home okay. When you wish good to others good comes back to you.
"You only truly grow as a woman when you realize that other girls are not, and never have been your competition." ~some post on Facebook
In conclusion, you are more than your looks; you are more than people’s criticism. You are capable of so much. People’s opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. People will judge you regardless, so you might as well do what you want. The only person’s opinion that matters is yours. Don’t think, just do.
“Statistics on Girls & Women's Self Esteem, Pressures & Leadership Heart of Leadership: Lead. Your World.” Heart of Leadership: Lead. Your World. -, https://heartofleadership.org/statistics/.